Online Counselling - what is it?
Online counselling, this is a personal opinion. But, it allows you to understand how I work.
Counselling is a quasi-structured conversation between two people. (Sometimes a couple may need counselling, but I no longer do couple work). To me, counselling cannot not have a fixed format. As each session is usually tailored to your needs during that session.
The concept being that it allows the you to develop new ways of thinking. As humans we are self-aware and have the ability to think about and generate emotions at will. This is a huge part of being human.
But, this ability may also cause problems; as the way we think can affect our emotions and behaviours.
Online Counselling is a form of psychotherapy that does not involve giving advice. Nor telling you to take a particular route to reach your goal. It falls under the umbrella of ‘talking therapies’. So lets people speak about their situation in a confidential and safe environment. I as a counsellor will listen to you and respect you as a person.
From this we can grow a rapport and trusting relationship. The counselling relationship develops over the sessions. This increases the trust between us. I will remain neutral to the values and beliefs you hold and help you during your exploration of these.
During counselling online I will encourage you to talk openly about what is troubling you. This is to help you uncover any root causes and identify how this affects your thinking. Feelings and emotions that have been hidden for a long time can be revealed. These can be fear, anger, grief, resentment, anxiety or embarrassment. I will listen to them and help the you to accept the feelings in a more healthy manner.
This will allow you to consider new options for dealing with your difficulties
Can Online Counselling help me?
Counselling can help all people with their problems. How can online counselling help? I create a safe, non-judgemental and confidential environment for you to speak freely in. This allows you to explore your thoughts, feelings and emotions with a person who is there to help you. I will not criticise you but part of my work is to challenge you in a supportive way
It is important for you to bear in mind that I cannot give you advice or tell you what to do to feel better. I will help you to arrive at your own insights. So you can understand your problems, your way. Generally counselling is regarded as not a brief therapy, but as a journey of self-discovery. Many journeys do take a long time, but most jouneys are much shorter. Therefore it is you the client that decides on the length of the journey you take. By having regular counselling sessions you will probably be able to cut your jouney time significantly.
Online Counselling helps you understand how other people may be feeling. There is a knock-on effect as you will make better judgements about what they say and do.
Counselling only works if you are prepared to explore painful thoughts, emotions and memories. Confronting these things is needed before you canmove forward then you will soon start to feel better.
All counselling is built on a trusting relationship between you and I. If for any reason you do not feel comfortable with me as your counsellor it is quite acceptable to tell me. I may be able to help yo to find a different counsellor.
On our first session I will establish clear boundaries about the counsellor/client relationship. This will include confidentiality, behaviour, keeping appointments and payment before you begin our sessions.